do not support your friends who turn out to be rapists.
do not doubt your friends who have been raped.
unfriend the rapists.
protect the abused.
There was a two (or maybe three) parter with Jaime/Blue Beetle that I never got to do before the rug came out from under us - Steph and Jaime bumping into each other at Spring Break (Jaime had snuck away with Paco) and h-a-t-i-n-g each other. But when Black Manta attacks, Blue Beetle and Batgirl get along great.
Later in the series, there could/would/should have been a sequel story with Jaime visiting Gotham U. and (through a series of unfortunate events) Steph winding up bonded with Scarab, and Jaime having to prove his stuff as a “normal” to save Batgirl and the day.
Also, “Star City Sirens” with Mia/Speedy calling on Batgirl for help when Kara/Supergirl comes down with a case of Red Kryptonite poisoning.
- Failing to tag a post as “transmisogyny” and instead only tagging “cissexism/transphobia” when the attack is directed at trans women (ex. use of the t-slur) is an act of erasure and violence.
- Failing to tag a post as “antiblackness” and instead only tagging “racism” when the attack is directed at black people (ex. use of the n-slur) is an act of erasure and violence
- Tagging a post anti-(insert race other than black) racism is a microaggression, as it appropriates the framework for talking about antiblackness to other racial groups who have different dynamics (ex. saying “anti-asian racism” when you mean orientalism). The only exceptions to this are antisemitism and anti-Romani racism.
- If you tag anything “hispanic” or any variant of that word I will side eye you. I hate that gentrifying word, it’s an attempt to make my people palatable by emphasizing our connection to whiteness.
- Transphobia isn’t really as coherent as a concept as cissexism is: the words are basically interchangeable, but I favor the latter, because the violence faced by people who are not trans woman is more based in assumptions that they cannot be what they say they are (cissexism) rather than repulsion (described by transphobia). That repulsion is almost always directed at trans women only, described in transmisogyny.
- It’s good to tag both cissexism and transphobia, because people blacklist the word transphobia, but when you talk about oppressive structures that ALL trans people face, use the word “cissexism” and when you talk about violence faced by trans women call it “transmisogyny,” because that is what it is.
its ok if you didnt always know you were trans
its ok if you really felt like your designated gender. its ok if you really were a boy or girl at some point. its ok if you really would rather view your transness as changing from one thing to another (instead of a process of revealing what was already there). its ok if you didnt know that you were trans when you were a kid. its ok if youre only just starting to think about gender stuff now. its ok if you approached transness deliberately, experimentally, as a conscious choice. its ok to approach your gender as mutable
it doesnt mean your transness is less valid or like the gender you are now is less “real” just because its not something youve always been perfectly aware of. youre great and powerful and whatever you want for yourself in your future right now is important and worthy no matter how long youve wanted it
hey guys this is a rly important announcement i will be going on a year-long hiatus bc theres no wifi at hogwarts ha ha l8r u dirtbags suck it